The Difference Between Being Parked In Life vs Navigating Life
Grow Into Your Circumstances
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” — Dr Wayne Dyer
In this second piece, I will outline how the two life states function individually and how you can become the master of your destiny when you understand the principles behind them.
In the diagram above there are two columns depicting the qualities of life when viewed from the Parked or Navigating perspectives.
If you read over the Parked section, you will be aware that viewing the world from this perspective equates to an experience that is stagnant, blunt, and static. I have purposely labelled the columns in red and green to identify the red with being static and the green depicting the dynamic energy of life.
Each moment of life creates itself anew. When we are open and receptive to what life brings, instead of resisting and fighting, we begin to cooperate with life. But life will always win when we attempt to oppose it. Our opposition to life stems from our need to suit the outside world to our needs.
Something inside of us says that if things were different on the outside, then we would be happy and content on the inside. It rarely ever works out that way, for we are attempting to base our internal happiness on external conditions, which are often beyond our control.
Another way to look at it is from the perspective that although we cannot change external conditions, you can control your inner world and how you respond to it. Let us look at this statement from the view of an athlete.
A skilled and trained runner needs to adjust himself to suit a variety of race conditions. He cannot possibly compete at international level and in different countries with only limited race prowess.
A successful athlete learns to race and train in a variety of conditions, locally and internationally. In doing so, he becomes well accustomed to a variety of conditions that help him to become a stronger and prized competitor.
Our lives are not dissimilar to that of athletes. We are faced with challenges every day. These challenges are not coincidental or unfortunate.
They come to us in order to allow us to grow and evolve into a superior person who is capable of withstanding anything life throws our way. Life, whilst rewarding as it is, is nonetheless challenging at the best of times.
Returning to the analogy of the athlete, it becomes essential that we grow and evolve so that we are well equipped to face and deal with life’s hurdles.
Now, let us examine the table starting from the left hand side when one is in the Parked state. Notice in the first box, when we are in the Parked state we view circumstances as a challenge instead of an opportunity to learn and grow.
One of the greatest gifts I have acquired in this experience is the ability to see that everything that transpires in my life does so for the unfolding of my greatest good.
Most people’s challenges lie in their inability to see what is before them is actually a gift — a gift wrapped up as a challenge.
We could not possibly grow as individuals if life were easy all of the time. Recalling the athlete, the more challenges the athlete is faced with, the stronger and faster he becomes.
If we navigate by similar thinking, we grow into circumstances rather than trying to force them to happen.
Turn Inward And Reflect Upon The Nature Of Your Disturbance
“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs.” — James Allen
Understand this: the life challenges you currently face, whether they be financial, relationship, career or other, are calling you to face your challenges with a new mind and a new outlook.
When you raise your level of consciousness, your level of thinking raises to view problems as opportunities.
In contrast, if you look to the box on the right-hand side under Navigating, you will note that the person who Navigates Life acts from inspiration rather than perspiration. Inspired people have more energy to make things happen.
The word inspired is intentionally used in contrast to the term motivated, as the term motivated implies stimulus from an external source, as opposed to being inspired from within.
I like to look at inspiration from this perspective. Consider the great Renaissance painter Michelangelo. I do not think Michelangelo ever had to be motivated to get up each morning to paint the Sistine Chapel. Michelangelo was inspired to create these pieces of art.
People who are inspired have an inner purpose, an inner calling. I personally believe this inner call is the expression of life — the Universe seeking to express itself.
People who are inspired rarely get tired and are enthusiastic about their mission or purpose. They cannot wait to get up each morning and be of service.
Let us look at the second box within the Parked table on the left-hand side to examine another life view. In a Parked state, you may view a relationship as frustrating, believing the other person is always the issue not you.
The point is that Parked people attempt to change their external world to suit their internal world. Unfortunately, life is too complex to wish that our external world will succumb to our wants, needs or desires.
In order to look at this from a higher perspective, you need to change your internal reference of your external world. In this example, it is worth noting that when we are in an intimate relationship, our partner is effectively mirroring back aspects of our personality, which we either repress or dislike.
The fact that it pushes our buttons is evidence enough that we identify with an unfavorable quality within ourselves. The key is not so much to fix the problem, as to become aware that you possess this quality.
Through awareness and conscious will, you are able to heal that part of your nature and create a more fulfilling and joyful intimate relationship.
The answer to any of our troubles is revealed by turning inward and reflecting upon the nature of that disturbance. Interactions with, our partners sometimes evoke mental or emotional sensitivities associated with childhood trauma or past experiences we have repressed.
However, denying an aspect of ourselves could result from an unconscious process. If we were harmed emotionally when we were young, our minds unconsciously repress the pain, possibly as a protective measure.
It is only later in adult life, when our mind has developed, that many of our childhood beliefs and programs return.
Those Navigating life, acknowledge that the world is reflecting back their current state of reality. Change within and without follows.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change, is a well-known spiritual saying which proclaims our capacity to be conscious creators of our life circumstances.
Those Navigating understand that the world outside is a reflection of their inner world. Instead of trying to fix things on the outside they tend to their inner world and heal mental or emotional states which are not in alignment with their desires.
People who are Navigating are continually realigning themselves to obtain the highest level of joy and fulfillment.
Pilots do the same thing when flying; as the plane flies toward its destination, its satellite navigation system is repeatedly updating in order keep the plane on course to reach the desired destination.
Likewise, those Navigating look toward their inner world in order to adjust and create their outer world experiences.
The Parked vs. Navigating comparative diagram illustrates the respective life views of each state. The key is to never stay stuck in one area and to recognizewhen we are stagnant and not moving forward.
When Navigating, we have the ability to self-correct: to steer ourselves into the future, to curtail regret.