How to achieve what no one else can.
Most people are living under someone else’s rules.
Society encourages people to play it safe and avoid loss. Risking big for big payoffs is discouraged, labeled foolish and irrational.
But the world’s biggest players go all-in. In the words of author Grant Cardone, “The giants on this planet are willing to make the big plays.”
Enormously successful people don’t “play it safe.” On the contrary, they are riskier and bolder than 99% of everyone else.
And this doesn’t mean they’re foolish, either. Robert Kiyosaki once said, “Investments are not risky for the financially literate.” If you know your business, risks aren’t even risks at all.
Most people don’t realize their mind is a bank that produces unlimited energy, creativity, and persistence. If you go all-in and lose, you can just reload all your chips.
It’s fair to ask — why not constantly go all-in with funding like this?
If you want to achieve success bigger than you’ve ever had, you’ll have to do things you’ve never done before.
“The only way things are going to change for you is when you change.” -Jim Rohn
Live the Life No One Else is Willing To Live
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.” -Darren Hardy
Years ago, my wife and I took a financial class by a finance guru named Dave Ramsey. My favorite quote from his course was this:
“Live like no one else now, so later you can live like no one else.”
We were in serious debt with little success getting out. We were overspending and under-saving, with the same financial bad habits most other people had.
But we followed Ramsey’s system. We put cash in envelopes marked “groceries” and “utilities” so we could control our spending. If we ran out of money in an envelope, we couldn’t spend any more money. We tracked exactly how many (how few?) dollars we were saving each month.
Then, the most brutal part of all: my wife gave me a monthly cap on how much I could spend on craft beer.
But soon, we paid off all our debts.
At 26 with 2 cars and 3 college degrees between us, we were 100% debt-free. We went from saving <$200 a month to well over $1,000 a month. We saved up so that we could quit our jobs and travel the world (we’re in South Korea now, Southeast Asia is next, Europe after).
We lived like no one else — skipping expensive happy hours with coworkers, cooking our week’s lunches on Sunday night, spending frustrating hours every week managing our Excel sheets…
And now, we can live like no one else.
The reason most people will never reach their ideal success is because they’re not willing to do the work.
Achieving your ideal lifestyle will take tremendous work. It will require you to do things you’ve never done before.
Most people are not willing to do this. They’d rather continue spending too much time and money on the comforts and gadgets that everyone else is buying.
The safety of the crowd is more appealing than the freedom of going out on their own.
But this is not the path to an extraordinary, powerful life of meaning and success.
Live like no one else is living now so later, you can live the way no one else can.
“There is one thing that 99% of failures and successful people have in common: they all hate doing the same things. The difference is successful people do them anyway.” -Darren Hardy
Your Level of Commitment Determines Your Level of Success
“If you’re not getting the results you want, it’s because you haven’t invested enough to get those results.” -Benjamin Hardy
Your commitment determines the success in every single area of your life:
- Your quality of relationships
- Your level of career fulfillment
- Your quality of health and wellness
- The numbers in your bank account
- Your entire future
Most people aren’t committed. They are simply “interested.”
In the words of John Assaraf:
“If you’re interested, you come up with stories, excuses, reasons, and circumstances about why you can’t or why you won’t. If you’re committed, those go out the window. You just do whatever it takes.”
Many of you know I struggled with quitting an addiction to pornography for 15 years.
It wasn’t for lack of trying, either. I read every book, prayed every prayer, vowed every vow, installed every “accountability software.” Nothing worked. I was preparing to live the rest of my life with this hidden obsession.
But there were still more solutions I hadn’t tried, things I balked at. Counseling, therapy, 12-step addiction stuff? C’mon. It’s not that bad.
But it was. And when I met my now-wife Kimi, I knew I had to stop — whatever it took. If I ever wanted a chance at a healthy marriage, I needed to kick the habit, permanently.
So I went to therapy. I wrote the 18 pages (front to back) for my therapist when he asked me to write down every single instance I could remember of feeling “shame.” I went to 90 meetings in 90 days (twice). My therapist told me to drive to a meeting inconveniently located an hour away, just to make sure I was truly invested.
I was committed. Come hell or high water, this behavior would end.
And it did. I haven’t looked at porn in years. I plan to never look at it ever again. My intimacy with my friends and family has never been deeper. I look straight into my friend’s eyes and say “I love you” all the time.
This is the power of commitment instead of “interest.”
Most people will remain “interested,” nothing more. They may claim they’ll do whatever it takes, or make grand gestures of behavioral change, but deep down their commitment is shaky and weak.
If you haven’t achieved the type of success you want yet, it’s probably because you haven’t committed enough yet.
“If you want lasting change, you have to give up this idea of just trying something, and you have to commit yourself to mastery. That means not just “dabbling,” but fully immersing yourself. Because your life is not controlled by what you do some of the time, but by what you do consistently.” -Tony Robbins
It Takes More Work to Stay in Mediocrity Than It Takes to Succeed
“It’s actually far more exhausting to not work than it is to work. It takes far more energy to sit with internal conflict than it does to get to work.” -Benjamin Hardy
I’ve been waking up at 5AM recently.
Unlike lots of the personal development “gurus” who have been doing this for years, it’s new for me. I drag myself out of bed to journal, pray, read, and write.
My wife jokes I’m crazy. But honestly, it’s beginning to take less and less work and motivation. I look forward to 5AM the night before, because I know I’m evolving into a better version of myself by practicing diligence and self-discipline.
Some words by David Kadavy come to mind: “When you build a habit, you don’t have to spend mental energy deciding what to do.”
Looking back at my old life — working at an ill-fitting corporate job, a beer belly, and 3 hours of TV after work — it really feels like less work now than it did then.
I was constantly fighting off hating how I looked in the mirror. I woke up every day knowing my job wasn’t right for me. I slept horribly because I was hopped up on caffeine all day and buzzed on alcohol most nights.
“If you keep on living the way you are now, you will continue to produce the same life you already have.” -Jim Rohn
Yesterday, I found I had more energy all day after waking up at 5AM than I usually did when I slept in until 8AM. It’s a fascinating truth about doing extraordinary work — you work more, but you feel more energized.
Most people would be surprised to discover living a more focused, diligent life actually takes less energy than living excessively with the wrong things.
You spend energy every day on surviving anyway — why not spend it moving forward towards great success?
Most people are living lives that are well below their potential, yet spending the same energy (or more!) than it would take on living a truly incredible life.
It takes more work to constantly fight off the negative feelings in mediocrity than it does to work towards great success.
“Most people never see extraordinary opportunities because all they’re looking for is money and security, so that’s all they get.” -Robert Kiyosaki
Act Like a Winner, Set Absurd Goals, and Perform Like You’re the Best
“Winners act like winners before they become winners. That’s how they become winners.” -Bill Walsh, NFL coach
Most people don’t act like winners.
Most people don’t believe they’re the best.
Most people don’t have big goals.
Most people are content to stay average.
Most people follow the crowd.
But not you.
In the words of author David Schwartz, “Think big and you’ll live big.” If you allow the mindset and actions of others to define you, you’ll never achieve the success you want.
Most people think they need to wait to “feel” like they’re ready before they can become something new — a better husband, an entrepreneur, an artist.
But this is backwards. It is by the very act of doing before feeling that feelings of confidence and success come. If you act like a winner, you’ll become one. If you operate as if you’re the best in the world, your output and results will skyrocket.
In the words of Angela Duckworth from her book, Grit:
Trying to do things they can’t, failing, and learning what they need to do different is exactly the way experts practice.”
Stop waiting to feel before you act. Just act.
If you want extraordinary success no one else has, you need to adopt a new mindset. You need to become more. You need to change your mode of thinking so that your output increases 10x or even 100x.
This is how you achieve enormous success — by acting first, correcting your course, and doing better next time. If you act like a world-class performer, you will feel like one.
When you believe you’re among the best, you act and perform like the best.” -David Schwartz
“Thinking success conditions your mind to create plans that produce success.” -David Schwartz
Great victory requires great sacrifice.
Cautious, fearful, group-think actions lead to mediocre results that are below your potential.
If you want success like no one else has, you must do what others are unwilling to do.
Life the live no one else is willing to live. Wake up earlier, eat better, read more, and make better choices than you did yesterday.
Do what others won’t, and you’ll get what others never will.